I'm finally realizing that even though I'm at a huge school, people won't just magically come to me, so I'm trying to make new friends, go new places, and enjoy myself. I want to be the guy that everyone knows, who is always busy. Problem is, I don't understand how to start since I don't know anyone, and since I've been in this situation for two years now, I can't play the "new in town" card anymore. Help?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:25 AM on April 15, 2013 (33 comments)

I met this girl, and we were sorta-dating for a couple of weeks, before eventually she decided she wasn't up for dating anyone at the moment and we had the "just friends" talk. I'm fine with that, but would like AMF's advice on best practices for making her have second thoughts. This is less of a bad idea than it might seem, I promise.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Jacen Solo at 4:48 PM on May 26, 2009 (52 comments)

One of my wife's distant friends has attempted to invite herself to stay with us, again. She did this last March, and we used the excuse of me starting a new job and needing to do x, y, and z as well as the "out of town" excuse for any remaining dates. This got us off scot-free, but we both knew the time would come again... and it's here. We need a final solution.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jeffxl at 1:38 PM on January 16, 2007 (121 comments)

What are some structured activities where I (early 30s, male) can meet women in their 20s/30s? I'm specifically looking for activities that involve an ongoing group with structured interaction between participants, because I'm not good at starting up conversations on my own.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by zeri at 6:26 PM on December 28, 2012 (23 comments)

I just got asked by email to meet for drinks by this guy in my Meetup group. He's a nice person, and I'd like to be friends. I have a boyfriend, and I don't think he knows this. How do I politely deflect?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by iadacanavon at 6:07 PM on December 16, 2012 (23 comments)

How can I avoid leading a guy on when he won't come out and state his attraction?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by chocolatemilkshakes at 10:18 PM on December 14, 2012 (28 comments)

Are you attracted to people of races different from your own?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Big Fat Tycoon at 8:13 AM on June 3, 2005 (83 comments)

I like a guy. I don't know how he feels about me. Would it be weird to make him a gift?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 9:08 PM on October 31, 2012 (33 comments)

DatingFilter: She knows I have feelings for her which she doesn't reciprocate, but she won't leave me alone.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 8:07 AM on September 21, 2005 (61 comments)

Can I Buy You a Coffee? "Harassment isn’t once. Harassment comes from a lifetime of dealing with people constantly doing things to you, whether you wanted them or not, at random intervals. You learn not to trust people. And what might have been pleasant, once, as an isolated incident, starts to feel pretty oppressive when it’s something you deal with on a weekly basis. It changes you, and then guys call you bitchy when you don’t feel like playing along and pretending this is just about the coffee."
posted to MetaFilter by sweetkid at 3:24 PM on October 23, 2012 (507 comments)

Dressing as an adult... for men. I've spent a bunch of time randomly googling and browsing through clothing regailer sites and blogs, but haven't come across quite what i'm looking for. As a man who doesn't like to shop, I would love to find a web-site that has photos of people wearing clothing that I like... along with links to where I can purchase those clothes. Seems simple, right? Well, not so fast.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jimmereeno at 3:59 PM on October 20, 2012 (18 comments)

No, but really, how do you make friends after college?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by dekathelon at 11:00 PM on January 21, 2012 (117 comments)

What does it take for someone to actually want something to do with you?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by dekathelon at 3:58 PM on December 29, 2011 (69 comments)

Some people have this mysterious ability to be - disarming. Please explain this skill and help me learn it!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by kitcat at 5:29 PM on February 10, 2009 (26 comments)

I'm not cut out for modern dating. Please help!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by whitelily at 2:27 PM on October 7, 2012 (32 comments)

What are the little things I should do to deepen relationships from the good acquaintance level to true friend level? Why did your best friends become your best friends?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Sharcho at 8:33 AM on October 22, 2005 (11 comments)

What are your 30s like?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by cuban link flooded jesus at 12:55 PM on December 9, 2009 (73 comments)

Guys are always hitting on my girlfriend and making it clear that she is out of my league, how do I stop being jealous MeFi?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by plechazunga at 9:51 AM on August 31, 2009 (70 comments)

I turn 29 in a couple weeks and would like to be in a relationship. What can I do differently?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by learninguntilidie at 12:13 AM on January 9, 2009 (96 comments)

This online dating thing is sort of working out, in that I'm getting dates with great people, but it never seems to move beyond 3-4 dates and I'm getting the kind of vagueness I got when I was in high school. How aggressive do I need to be?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 7:02 PM on October 8, 2012 (24 comments)

I've been with my boyfriend for four years. For the first time in our relationship, I am interested in someone else. What does this mean, and what should I do?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:04 PM on February 2, 2006 (31 comments)

I am a 30-year-old Chicago male, and I am still a virgin.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 10:06 AM on April 30, 2005 (60 comments)

I'm a man in his thirties who has gone on very few dates in his life, and I'm having trouble getting a good read on the behavior of a woman who I've been interacting with.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:04 PM on February 2, 2006 (70 comments)

If the woman of my affections has been dating some other guy for a year -- a relationship she has said is "not that serious," in frequent playful e-mails to me -- what strategy is smarter? Stay in a queue until she becomes available? Ask what's up? Steal her away? Can anyone share successful or unsuccessful ploys to turn the other guy into the Baxter, when the woman involved is a pretty neat friend you'd like to avoid losing?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:22 PM on October 15, 2005 (12 comments)

Is it possible to remain friends with someone you're in love with?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jstef at 10:19 PM on September 10, 2007 (44 comments)

My housemate is in love with me and I am going bonkers.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by skjønn at 1:14 PM on September 10, 2007 (41 comments)

What are some not-obvious things you can't/shouldn't say to women?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by pauldonato at 11:52 AM on September 15, 2010 (170 comments)

What should I be expecting from OKCupid? Assume my profile is just fine.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by evinrude at 6:57 PM on July 30, 2012 (27 comments)

This is a follow up to my previous question. Made a move on a girl who I thought had some interest in me. I thought wrong, apparently...
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:55 PM on November 13, 2011 (46 comments)

What's the next step in this relationship? Should I make a move? Why is this so confusing?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by StrictlyVague at 1:00 AM on March 9, 2012 (33 comments)

You're a woman in your 30s looking to meet men for dating/relationships. What are you doing to meet people OUTSIDE OF online dating sites?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by sherlockt at 6:37 PM on July 19, 2012 (37 comments)

How does the dumper feel?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 2:31 PM on April 1, 2010 (21 comments)

I'm a normal, well-adjusted, heterosexual, 30 year old male. And I'm a virgin. How do I get past this?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by ann on a mouse at 3:15 AM on July 23, 2012 (58 comments)

I've fallen in love with one of my best female friends, someone I have practically no chance of ever being with, and I'm unsure of how to deal with the situation. Do I cut her off completely and try to get over it? Do I act like nothing's happened and continue to be her friend despite the fact that it gets worse every time I talk to her? Do I ask her to give me space without telling her why? Help me, mefites; this is rotting me from the inside out.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 10:29 AM on January 22, 2005 (45 comments)

If you were single for a while and somehow got out of it, how did you?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by philosophistry at 11:22 PM on November 1, 2007 (39 comments)

How can I help a friend avoid the "nice guy" trap?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jtron at 12:17 PM on April 7, 2011 (48 comments)

Help a girl make guy friends with a minimum of misunderstandings. (Despite a history of misunderstandings.) I am female, in my late 20s. I am in a committed relationship that is about to temporarily become long-distance. I am about to enter an environment (MBA program) where male students outnumber females three to one.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Mr Bunnsy at 8:11 PM on January 15, 2008 (56 comments)

What is flirting? And am I doing it?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by UniversityNomad at 6:28 AM on February 10, 2012 (47 comments)

How should a woman make it clear to a man she has just met that she is interested in being friends, even good friends, but not interested romantically?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by cmyr at 7:08 PM on April 28, 2005 (42 comments)

I'm not good at flirting. In fact, when I am interested, I tend to be somewhat distant, for fear of embarassing myself. How do I get better at flirting? in a nice way
posted to Ask MetaFilter by theora55 at 2:50 PM on April 27, 2005 (44 comments)

Attraction detection: what makes you think someone is attracted to you? (not what makes you attracted to them) and how accurate are people's beliefs that someone is attracted to them?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by gwenlister at 8:10 AM on June 5, 2009 (18 comments)

An introvert in an extrovert's world - Teach a perennial shy guy how to navigate dating and relationships
posted to Ask MetaFilter by photo guy at 9:20 PM on February 10, 2011 (23 comments)

I am currently seeing someone, but foolishly I have begun to talk to and flirt with a cute girl in one of my classes, and now I think that she likes me and I have to tell her that I am seeing someone, what do I do?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by gavtaylor at 10:29 PM on February 19, 2008 (26 comments)

Why am I addicted to male attention? And how do I stop?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by blackcatcuriouser at 12:11 PM on March 1, 2010 (29 comments)

How do men and women flirt differently? I'm a straight man who often comes off as feminine or gay, and I don't like it. I think it's ruining my success with women. Help?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 6:52 PM on March 21, 2011 (53 comments)

SocialSkillsFilter: How can I become better at reading people, and telling whether or not someone is interested in pursuing a friendship farther?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Anonymous at 5:58 PM on November 2, 2008 (12 comments)

She's got a boyfriend. . .should I give it up or go full steam ahead?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by sherlockt at 1:15 PM on August 24, 2007 (63 comments)

Great with online dating, not so much in the real world. How can I better recognize when it's okay to ask someone out?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by photo guy at 8:56 AM on June 13, 2010 (13 comments)

Am I emotionally cheating on my boyfriend?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Emms at 8:49 PM on January 6, 2012 (33 comments)