<title>By: nickyskye</title>
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<description><strong>yhbc</strong>, Would you mind explaining a bit more what you meant about Rule 11 and this case? I'm curious and unfamiliar with legalese. I tried to make sense of your post but am bewildered. Are you saying that no lawyer in his right mind in Massachusetts would take on a "scandalous" case like this one and that's why Pandey's dad filed the lawsuit himself? Does that give the case less credence legally?
What about the poor women, Savita, does she stand any chance for legal retribution for having been so publicly shamed?
<strong>contessa</strong>, Thanks. Your post brings up a lot of thoughts for me. Not least of all the social punishment of being deemed U-G-L-Y.
Living in India for ten years, I was, like most Americans, appalled at the idea of arranged marriages. But then over the years, after being predictably mortified by the whole "wheatish complexion" obsession in the matrimonial ads, I saw that, for the most part, arranged marriages in India are made in good faith by the community of each person and endure, with love, far more frequently than Western marriages.
A cherished ex-boyfriend of mine, who was of the <a href="http://www.umanitoba.ca/institutes/natural_resources/mountain/book/5/3.html">Thakur caste</a> (a subdivision of the royal warring caste, <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rajput">the Rajputs</a>), previously had "a love marriage" (not an arranged one) with a woman of the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dalit_(outcaste)">Untouchable caste</a>, named Lily, whose skin was paradoxically dark. She cheated on him and they divorced. There was a folk song about his broken marriage, "your Lily is black", sung for many years after their union dissolved and he married a Western woman.
There is a marvellous movie about an Indian arranged marriage, called <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0265343/">Monsoon Wedding</a>. Very enjoyable and worth seeing.</description>
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