Creepy Finance Guy With Spreadsheet of Match.com ‘Prospects’ Says He Was Just Trying to Be Organized
April 19, 2012 5:04 PM Subscribe
Dave works in finance. Dave wants to date. Dave uses Excel for his job. Dave recently learned that he should not use Excel to quantify his potential dating partners.
This post was deleted for the following reason: This seems like a great story for Jezebel and maybe a good one to just leave over there. -- cortex
There's nothing creepy about this. His mistake was sharing his notes with someone who is, it turns out, a rather awful human being.
posted by kprincehouse at 5:12 PM on April 19, 2012 [2 favorites]
posted by kprincehouse at 5:12 PM on April 19, 2012 [2 favorites]
Creepy online company spreads gossip about some random dude, clutches pearls.
posted by Sys Rq at 5:13 PM on April 19, 2012
posted by Sys Rq at 5:13 PM on April 19, 2012
So Dave thought he was being silly and self-deprecating and sorely misjudged his audience.
What a cunt he must be for doing that.
posted by howfar at 5:13 PM on April 19, 2012 [1 favorite]
What a cunt he must be for doing that.
posted by howfar at 5:13 PM on April 19, 2012 [1 favorite]
I'm not terribly surprised. There's a pretty serious culture of men who organize everything using Excel, from rating their favorite zombie movies to their dieting progress to their television watching schedule to the amount of times they yawn per day. Some of them do it out of a sense of fun, and others are just sort of obsessed with organizing data.
But, like a little black book, its not something you want somebody else to find. We all rate people in our heads, and perhaps it is okay to even write it down somewhere secret, but our ratings are subjective and generally hideously unfair, because the way we respond to people is closer to a neurotic tic than a careful and compassionate assessment.
And if you're going to describe somebody as "jappy," that's probably the sort of thing you want to use your inside voice for.
posted by Bunny Ultramod at 5:14 PM on April 19, 2012 [1 favorite]
But, like a little black book, its not something you want somebody else to find. We all rate people in our heads, and perhaps it is okay to even write it down somewhere secret, but our ratings are subjective and generally hideously unfair, because the way we respond to people is closer to a neurotic tic than a careful and compassionate assessment.
And if you're going to describe somebody as "jappy," that's probably the sort of thing you want to use your inside voice for.
posted by Bunny Ultramod at 5:14 PM on April 19, 2012 [1 favorite]
Personally, I prefer Crystal Reports
posted by shakespearicles at 5:14 PM on April 19, 2012 [1 favorite]
posted by shakespearicles at 5:14 PM on April 19, 2012 [1 favorite]
This is the worst of the internet. Please leave the poor guy alone. If we all had windows into our own minds, we would all be equally appalled. It was a poor decision for him to share his thoughts with someone he couldn't trust, but taking the ball and running with it is much more lame, in my opinion.
posted by grog at 5:14 PM on April 19, 2012 [5 favorites]
posted by grog at 5:14 PM on April 19, 2012 [5 favorites]
If you hold a hammer long enough, everything starts to look like a nail.
posted by klarck at 5:15 PM on April 19, 2012
posted by klarck at 5:15 PM on April 19, 2012
It might be weird to keep a spreadsheet with personal info on dates, and it's much weirder to send it to one of those people, but I think that the person who shared it with Jezebel is really the worst actor.
posted by jeather at 5:16 PM on April 19, 2012 [5 favorites]
posted by jeather at 5:16 PM on April 19, 2012 [5 favorites]
Every time I read a story like this I'm reminded of the privacy expert who recommended only sharing things online - with anyone - if you'd be prepared to have it read live during the Super Bowl telecast.
posted by The Card Cheat at 5:16 PM on April 19, 2012 [2 favorites]
posted by The Card Cheat at 5:16 PM on April 19, 2012 [2 favorites]
This is the worst of the internet
This is the exact phrase that came to my mind when I saw the article.
posted by beau jackson at 5:16 PM on April 19, 2012
This is the exact phrase that came to my mind when I saw the article.
posted by beau jackson at 5:16 PM on April 19, 2012
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