A Family That Will Accept You No Matter What

October 12, 2012 3:29 AM

"I'm a 41 year old mom of two teenage boys. My oldest is gay and has the full support of both of his parents and his brother. If your family won't accept you, in honor of the day, I will be happy to virtually adopt you if you want to come out to a family that will accept you no matter what. "
posted by yankeefog (27 comments total)

Bless.
posted by MartinWisse at 4:07 AM on October 12, 2012

That was heartwarming.

Being closeted must be a terrible burden.
posted by flippant at 4:39 AM on October 12, 2012

Damnit internet! You aren't supposed to make me cry this early!
posted by katers890 at 4:42 AM on October 12, 2012

Damn. Now what I supposed to do with my recently acquired disdain for reddit?
posted by she's not there at 5:16 AM on October 12, 2012 [1 favorite]

Wow. That is amazing. Please excuse me, I have an eyelash in my eye.
posted by bfranklin at 5:36 AM on October 12, 2012 [1 favorite]

Well, let's just be clear in the thread. I'm sure this is true of most MeFites, but if anyone needs someone to talk to about being closeted LGBTI or indeed a MeFi adoption I'm very happy to talk about it for as long as people need. There's a lot of people here who have been through that, I suspect.
posted by jaduncan at 5:36 AM on October 12, 2012 [3 favorites]

I've got to respect the emotional reserves of someone who can let that many people lean on her and reply appropriately to each one. That's an amazing display of strength.
posted by Karmakaze at 5:39 AM on October 12, 2012 [5 favorites]

wow. And her responses to them all are so right on. Definitely tearing up here.
posted by gaspode at 5:48 AM on October 12, 2012

I thought the concept odd at first, but once you start reading it is all just so amazingly heartwarming.
posted by Theta States at 6:11 AM on October 12, 2012 [1 favorite]

Oh, and if people are looking for more people to talk to, this thread on the proposed MeFi It Gets Better video is a good place to go.
posted by jaduncan at 6:19 AM on October 12, 2012

Wow. I could only get a few comments down before it was too hard to see the screen.
posted by BlueJae at 6:26 AM on October 12, 2012

what an wonderful thing to do. They must be saints... My only concern would be that they become so
flooded with desperate young people and their stories that they cant deal with it all.
They may have bitten off more than they can chew.
posted by quazichimp at 6:28 AM on October 12, 2012

Dear MeFi:

please don't make me cry at work. My employees get uncomfortable.
posted by signal at 6:32 AM on October 12, 2012

I'm not even going to attempt to link because reddit confuses me so much with its threading, but:

[–]LockedInTheCloset 101 points 15 hours ago

Mom, I'm gay. I hope this doesn't change our relationship, but if it does, I understand.

Thanks for letting me do with you what I can't with my mom IRL :)

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[–]Diogenes71official honorary gaymers mom[S] 178 points 15 hours ago

Of course this changes our relationship! I'm even more proud of you than I was before I knew you existed. You have the courage to accept yourself in a society that isn't always supportive of that. Your being gay is just the icing on the cake. All mom's should have at least one gay son. Watching movies are much more enjoyable now. Usually I'm the only girl in the room, but now I have somebody else who understands why I like action movies so much. It's not because they have such amazing plots.


Makes me miss my mom a lot.
posted by rtha at 6:33 AM on October 12, 2012 [4 favorites]

Our older boy often brought home friends for the holidays whose families had cut them off after coming out. As far as we were concerned, that was just some more boys for us to have, and fuck those fools who threw that kind of love away.
posted by Mary Ellen Carter at 6:38 AM on October 12, 2012 [27 favorites]

This is absolutely amazing and the right way to parent and be a human being. Good for her. I will never, ever understand why/how parents reject their children over being gay, lesbian, bi, transexual, etc. Even if you dont' understand it, it's not your life. As long as your children lead a healthy, happy, productive life that doesn't harm them or anyone else--support them, love them and be there for them.
posted by stormpooper at 6:46 AM on October 12, 2012 [1 favorite]

Compassion is awesome stuff, and concentrated compassion makes my heart hurt in a good, good way.
posted by Mooski at 7:04 AM on October 12, 2012

That mom rocks.
posted by caroo at 7:06 AM on October 12, 2012

Of course this changes our relationship! I'm even more proud of you than I was before...

Of course this changes our relationship! I'm even more proud of you than I was before

What is the emoticon for the thing where you instinctively put your hand over your heart and inhale sharply because you are amazed.
posted by prefpara at 7:45 AM on October 12, 2012 [4 favorites]

This lady's picture should be put in the dictionary next to the definition of "mensch".
posted by Mr. Bad Example at 8:06 AM on October 12, 2012 [2 favorites]

This is incredible. I have many friends who were rejected by their families after they came out (something that I am, without any hyperbole, completely incapable of understanding). A person like this in their life would have been incredible. So massive twitterpated kudos to this wonderful woman.
posted by jason says at 9:06 AM on October 12, 2012

This is awesome. I use that word far too much; but in the case of this lady, it is entirely justified.
posted by arcticseal at 9:15 AM on October 12, 2012 [1 favorite]

I hope that thread is archived and put in the library of congress.
posted by steganographia at 9:24 AM on October 12, 2012

This lady's picture should be put in the dictionary next to the definition of "mensch".

Or the one for fe-mensch, even.
posted by Strange Interlude at 11:58 AM on October 12, 2012

This reminds me of the metafilter user who has like 200 spouses.
posted by bukvich at 12:00 PM on October 12, 2012

*Snif* There is something in my eye. No, now it's on my cheek.

Or the one for fe-mensch, even

I must pedantically point out here that “mensch” has no etymological relation to maleness, just to humanity.
posted by hattifattener at 12:08 AM on October 13, 2012 [2 favorites]

This is lovely, though I don't really want to think too closely about why my mother is also a big action movie fan.
posted by jb at 9:57 AM on October 13, 2012