Meet Neetu
April 25, 2016 5:42 PM Subscribe
Came to make a joke about getting the tables, left awed and silent.
posted by vrakatar at 6:32 PM on April 25, 2016
posted by vrakatar at 6:32 PM on April 25, 2016
awesome. I hope she wins in Rio!
posted by bitteroldman at 6:44 PM on April 25, 2016 [1 favorite]
posted by bitteroldman at 6:44 PM on April 25, 2016 [1 favorite]
So let me get this straight... the marriage at age 13 was a travesty, but the next marriage at age 14 was totally cool? What am I missing here?
posted by some loser at 6:45 PM on April 25, 2016 [1 favorite]
posted by some loser at 6:45 PM on April 25, 2016 [1 favorite]
Still a travesty but given her environment it was probably one of the better outcomes available to her. Sometimes there are no good choices.
posted by any portmanteau in a storm at 6:59 PM on April 25, 2016 [11 favorites]
posted by any portmanteau in a storm at 6:59 PM on April 25, 2016 [11 favorites]
Balkesh Ahlawa, a 45-year-old villager, remarked, "She's changed everything! Everybody believes that a girl can now say — 'I want to do something.' "
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posted by Fizz at 7:21 PM on April 25, 2016 [1 favorite]
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posted by Fizz at 7:21 PM on April 25, 2016 [1 favorite]
I mean, the article is pretty clear - her current husband, who probably didn't have a ton of choices either about who to marry, supports her in pursuing her career. Supports her, in fact, to a degree that not a lot of men in the US would, since he's obviously doing a huge amount of childcare and daily chores as well as his work, and he's supporting her in doing something that is not coded as feminine, and that transforms her body in ways that are not common for women. Honestly, any woman should have such a partner, and I have known plenty of men who wouldn't have his follow-through.
Also, wow does she look strong. Not that I'm going to start training eight hours a day, and not that I'm 21, but I might print out those pictures as inspiration. It must be so neat to have that much physical strength at your disposal - merely doing some weightlifting has taught me how cool it is to be able to lift stuff, and I mean, I bet she could lift me. Probably while I held a barbell.
posted by Frowner at 7:22 PM on April 25, 2016 [30 favorites]
Also, wow does she look strong. Not that I'm going to start training eight hours a day, and not that I'm 21, but I might print out those pictures as inspiration. It must be so neat to have that much physical strength at your disposal - merely doing some weightlifting has taught me how cool it is to be able to lift stuff, and I mean, I bet she could lift me. Probably while I held a barbell.
posted by Frowner at 7:22 PM on April 25, 2016 [30 favorites]
So let me get this straight... the marriage at age 13 was a travesty, but the next marriage at age 14 was totally cool? What am I missing here?
The fact that it seems to work for her, plus her second husband doesn't shit in the house?
Marriage at that age is difficult for us to accept from a Western/US perspective, but it's not unique in the culture she's from. The fact that she entered into a marriage at a typically early age that doesn't completely suck as much as her first one did is a Win for her, even if it wouldn't be for one of our neighbors or family members. It isn't really fair to judge her marriage through our lens.
posted by mudpuppie at 7:24 PM on April 25, 2016 [10 favorites]
The fact that it seems to work for her, plus her second husband doesn't shit in the house?
Marriage at that age is difficult for us to accept from a Western/US perspective, but it's not unique in the culture she's from. The fact that she entered into a marriage at a typically early age that doesn't completely suck as much as her first one did is a Win for her, even if it wouldn't be for one of our neighbors or family members. It isn't really fair to judge her marriage through our lens.
posted by mudpuppie at 7:24 PM on April 25, 2016 [10 favorites]
I wasn't judging HER specifically, more like the situation she was forced into through no fault of her own.
posted by some loser at 7:27 PM on April 25, 2016
posted by some loser at 7:27 PM on April 25, 2016
Personally I think she's awesome but that's not really what I was commenting on.
posted by some loser at 7:29 PM on April 25, 2016
posted by some loser at 7:29 PM on April 25, 2016
I wasn't judging HER specifically, more like the situation she was forced into through no fault of her own.
Which is why I said "it isn't really fair to judge her *marriage*". I'm not advocating for marrying off teenaged girls in any culture, but the fact that she lives in a very dominantly patriarchal society and has a husband who cares for their twin boys while she's immersed in serious wrestling training isn't exactly a 'travesty.' The marriage is a footnote in this story.
posted by mudpuppie at 7:32 PM on April 25, 2016 [2 favorites]
Which is why I said "it isn't really fair to judge her *marriage*". I'm not advocating for marrying off teenaged girls in any culture, but the fact that she lives in a very dominantly patriarchal society and has a husband who cares for their twin boys while she's immersed in serious wrestling training isn't exactly a 'travesty.' The marriage is a footnote in this story.
posted by mudpuppie at 7:32 PM on April 25, 2016 [2 favorites]
(Except, okay, "child bride" is in the FPP title and the headline. It's the selling point for the story, in my opinion, but I wish the story could stand on its own. Carry on.)
posted by mudpuppie at 7:33 PM on April 25, 2016 [1 favorite]
posted by mudpuppie at 7:33 PM on April 25, 2016 [1 favorite]
Mod note: One comment deleted. Point made about marriage ages, maybe let's leave it at that.
posted by LobsterMitten (staff) at 7:42 PM on April 25, 2016
posted by LobsterMitten (staff) at 7:42 PM on April 25, 2016
So, I'm trying to diet -- and I tell everyone I'm dieting -- but I stop at 7-11 and buy a donut every morning. EVERY MORNING. Also, I'm trying to get in shape for a backpacking trip in July. But I tell people I'm going to the gym, and instead I sit in my car and read a book. Starting tomorrow morning, I'm going to skip the donut, and I'm going to go to the gym for real. For Neetu.
posted by OrangeDisk at 8:02 PM on April 25, 2016 [8 favorites]
posted by OrangeDisk at 8:02 PM on April 25, 2016 [8 favorites]
I've been putting off making some improvements to my dietary habits, and I've really been slacking off on going to the gym lately. But I'm gonna start making some changes and going back to the gym. For Neetu!
posted by MrBadExample at 8:41 PM on April 25, 2016
posted by MrBadExample at 8:41 PM on April 25, 2016
Starting tomorrow morning, I'm going to skip the donut
If you find it difficult to go cold turkey on the donuts, I'd say have half a donut after lunch, and make sure lunch is your second meal of the day. Then go lighter on dinner, with no sugary dessert.
The best way to start your day is with a big, healthy breakfast full of protein and veggies. Spiking your blood sugar with simple carbs first thing in the morning sets you up for a roller coaster of a day, making it harder to stick to your nutritional plans the rest of the day. Best of luck!
posted by mantecol at 8:53 PM on April 25, 2016
If you find it difficult to go cold turkey on the donuts, I'd say have half a donut after lunch, and make sure lunch is your second meal of the day. Then go lighter on dinner, with no sugary dessert.
The best way to start your day is with a big, healthy breakfast full of protein and veggies. Spiking your blood sugar with simple carbs first thing in the morning sets you up for a roller coaster of a day, making it harder to stick to your nutritional plans the rest of the day. Best of luck!
posted by mantecol at 8:53 PM on April 25, 2016
the marriage at age 13 was a travesty, but the next marriage at age 14 was totally cool?
Child marriage is a horrible thing, but within it some outcomes are better than others. As has been pointed out earlier, her husband is taking on more domestic work than many in the Western world do, and he lives in fucking Haryana.
posted by splitpeasoup at 9:41 PM on April 25, 2016 [3 favorites]
Child marriage is a horrible thing, but within it some outcomes are better than others. As has been pointed out earlier, her husband is taking on more domestic work than many in the Western world do, and he lives in fucking Haryana.
posted by splitpeasoup at 9:41 PM on April 25, 2016 [3 favorites]
From illiterate child bride to famous Nigerian novelist
posted by infini at 3:28 AM on April 26, 2016 [2 favorites]
posted by infini at 3:28 AM on April 26, 2016 [2 favorites]
I would say eat the donut while working out at the gym. Worst case scenario the exercise will stabilise your blood sugar and more likely, you'll come to subconsciously associate the taste of donuts with hard work, and they won't seem so appealing thereafter.
posted by lollusc at 3:59 AM on April 26, 2016
posted by lollusc at 3:59 AM on April 26, 2016
at the gym, you should replace the barbell plates with donuts.
win-win!
posted by bitteroldman at 5:39 AM on April 26, 2016
win-win!
posted by bitteroldman at 5:39 AM on April 26, 2016
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