"Gratitude is probably, I think, the deepest lesson of this."
June 28, 2017 8:17 PM Subscribe
Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg talks about returning to work after her husband’s death and the research about resilience with psychology professor Adam Grant. Insightful thoughts for when we grieve, and when people we are care for are grieving.
From the Recode script:
I thought about this before Dave died, and then after Dave died, even more. No one should face the choice this morning, and so many people do, of "Do I take care of a sick child or do I lose my job and the roof over my head?"
At one point in my life, I found myself in a position literally and explicitly pointing basically this problem out to one of my superiors, in private. They had nothing to constructive to say, they basically blamed a different group of people at the institution and said that the system was not perfect. Hearing a corporate executive articulate the problem is felt really affirming; even though I disagree with Sandberg and Grant on pretty much every theoretical and philosophical point, I can still appreciate her way of seeking change from within patriarchal-capitalist structures (to echo the discussions about both these authors when they've appeared on MeFi in the past).
posted by polymodus at 4:10 AM on June 29, 2017 [5 favorites]
I thought about this before Dave died, and then after Dave died, even more. No one should face the choice this morning, and so many people do, of "Do I take care of a sick child or do I lose my job and the roof over my head?"
At one point in my life, I found myself in a position literally and explicitly pointing basically this problem out to one of my superiors, in private. They had nothing to constructive to say, they basically blamed a different group of people at the institution and said that the system was not perfect. Hearing a corporate executive articulate the problem is felt really affirming; even though I disagree with Sandberg and Grant on pretty much every theoretical and philosophical point, I can still appreciate her way of seeking change from within patriarchal-capitalist structures (to echo the discussions about both these authors when they've appeared on MeFi in the past).
posted by polymodus at 4:10 AM on June 29, 2017 [5 favorites]
Because when you have tragedy in one area of your life, the secondary loss of it bleeding into the other areas of your life is so real.
I had somehow never thought of that before but it makes so much sense. Of course we lose confidence at work when we go through something horrible in our personal lives.
Very interesting interview. Like others on MetaFilter, I'm not totally down with what the two authors represent but I very much enjoyed hearing their thoughts. Thanks for sharing, smoke.
posted by librarylis at 7:37 PM on July 1, 2017 [1 favorite]
I had somehow never thought of that before but it makes so much sense. Of course we lose confidence at work when we go through something horrible in our personal lives.
Very interesting interview. Like others on MetaFilter, I'm not totally down with what the two authors represent but I very much enjoyed hearing their thoughts. Thanks for sharing, smoke.
posted by librarylis at 7:37 PM on July 1, 2017 [1 favorite]
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